Is that “banbossy” shit serious?
Because if it is, I don’t fucking care I’ll say it if I want. God damn. Is this what feminism is now? Censorship of common words?
You are missing the point of the Ban Bossy campaign.
Ban Bossy is a campaign by Girl Scouts of America and…
I totally see what you’re saying. But I feel like this campaign is fighting for nothing. I’m not going to stop using the word, not that I’ve ever used it.
I’ve been hanging out with friends, and I’ve had friends cram what I’m supposed to do down my throat without me having any choice in the matter.
It was a male.
I’ve also had females do that.
The banning of the word “bossy” is completely and utterly pointless because there will most likely be no repercussions if someone says it.
It’s not about the word itself, it is about the way in which it is used to stifle leadership potential in girls.
It’s not about denying that sometimes people can be bossy.
It’s about shining light on the fact that the same traits we celebrate in young men, we shame in young women by passing off their ideas, drive, and passion as “bossy.” And bossy is negative. Bossy is a trait to be corrected.
A lot of the time, the things that make a girl “bossy” make a boy a leader.
That’s what Ban Bossy is about.
I’ve never seen a boy be applauded for forcing others to do things.
A leader guides the way.
A bossy person forces others.
In the few times I’ve EVER called someone bossy, it was a male. I’m still not seeing how this campaign is useful in the least.
This campaign is not about the definitions of words. It is about the way we use those words. Language is fundamental to the way we function as a society, and when girls grow as leaders only to be shot down with a negative word like “bossy,” they begin to think their opinions and abilities don’t matter.
This campaign is not about you. You are getting personally offended and defensive about a campaign that challenges the way society labels girls with leadership potential “bossy.”
I suspect you struggle to see the value in this campaign because you have not been constantly insulted and discouraged from exhibiting qualities of leadership that are celebrated in your male peers.
Watch Lean In’s video for the campaign: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B1q1CiuCET8
Girls are constantly told that they can’t be leaders. Never in such terms– but their attempts to become leaders and to develop as leaders are shot down as them being bossy, pushy, a know-it-all; their leadership development is hampered by a society that punishes women for the traits it celebrates in men.
This campaign is specifically about girls. About young girls. Girls told from an early age that when they speak up, they are something no one wants to be: bossy.
This campaign asks you to encourage leadership in girls– to consider that when you are about to call a girl bossy, you may be causing more damage than you think; that your accusation may not even be true– that your perception of leadership may be sexist in its basis. This campaign asks you to think critically not just about the word “bossy,” but about the negative way our society views female leaders.
You know why they chose “ban bossy” instead of “ban overcritical judgments of girls with qualities traditionally associated with leadership”? It’s a better hashtag. It’s easier to understand. And it’s the most common.
Let’s say ten-year-old Sally is doing a group Language Arts project. None of her groupmates are really saying or doing anything, so she’s driving the ideas: let’s make a poster, who wants to present the first part, etc.
Her groupmates follow Sally’s lead. They do well on the project. But they were raised in a society that discourages initiative and assertiveness in women. They write down, on the group evaluation at the end of the project, that Sally was bossy.
Sally takes this comment well the first time. We did well on the project, and someone had to lead it, she thinks. The next time it happens, she wonders if she is missing cues that her peers wanted to step up. Sally speaks up less and less in class, in groups, until she doesn’t feel comfortable taking the lead anymore, even if her project group sits in class for 20 minutes doing absolutely nothing for the assignment. She doesn’t know what she is doing wrong, but she knows that people seem to appreciate her silence more than they appreciate her leadership.
I know this because I work with girls ages 7-17– girls who are so often scared to lead because they have been taught that when they lead, they are bossy, pushy, aggressive. When we encourage them to speak their mind and not be afraid to take action, it is incredible, the things they are capable of.